"PERTH singular Maddy works prolonged hours in a city and hasn’t had time to demeanour for love. So she left it adult to a new kind of matchmaker to find her a date. It started with a Facebook crony ask with a lady who calls herself Lucy Date. Lucy is a face of a new use called My Friend’s Friend that sets people adult on blind dates, and doesn’t give we any information about your lady or male crony — solely their initial name. No form pictures, no credentials information, nothing."
So it appears that a new dating trend has emerged whereby one friend's Lucy Date on Facebook and then one is setup on a blind date scenario with another Facebook stranger at the Old Laundry Bar. The concept is clever but it's important to note the risks involved before embarking on this style of dating. We endeavour to be critical without being bias in this assessment of this new dating "trend". Rather its a dissection or a case study of the risks of a particular genre of online dating. It's a piece to educate and inform rather than be outright slanderous, (well that's the intent).
The Concept Is Contradictory
“Lucy is old-school, rather than spending days on finish going by Tinder or E-Harmony profiles, all we do is spin adult to your date."
Lucy Date masquerades to be something it's not. This is "old school dating" (granted this is opinion rather than fact)
"Ask someone out on a REAL date: None of this “meet you there” or “hanging out.” I have girlfriends who tell me all the time… “no one ever asks them out on official dates…” It’s easy, you just call someone and ask them out on a date, or ask them in person. No texting either."
"Getting picked up at the door. No more of this texting or calling to say “I’m outside”, but actually getting out of the car and walking to the door. It takes just a minute and makes all the difference in the world. It’s a date, it’s special, and should be treated as such."
“The staff during a venue were good during shortening any intensity blind date awkwardness."
Your safety is only guaranteed by the bar staff, as per these defining factors
- Do they genuinely care about "date awkwardness" and will rescue you at any given time? It would all depend on their personality and if they were a caring empathetic individual. Perhaps some would prefer that you squirm?
- What happens if the bar is super busy? Let be honest here, making drinks is a priority rather than caring for two people sitting down...
- How is the bar informed of the two who are arriving for the blind date? How do they identify you. And if they do know, is that private information also being shared?
- What happens if this person is a sexual predator and could spike your drink without you even knowing? Would the bar staff care that you are intoxicated and you're leaving the bar with the "blind date"? This concept would be a lot safer with a dedicated host on site at the times for the blind date.
Furthermore the attendee has no known information about the other blind date before attending, no name whatsoever. What do you tell your friends or family when going on this date expedition? All they know is the location. Put another way you always tell people where you are going when you are going camping and what time you will be back. Will this vital safety information be discussed?
Because there is no infomation about each other (anonymity) and a low buy in, there is no actual real investment in this process. So it's safe to say being stood is a high probability.
Privacy Is An Issue
"Ms Date (Her name is fake, though she is a genuine person) pronounced she’s been matchmaking friends “for years” and depends personification Cupid as a hobby."
Is all your information protected from other people? Do you sign a contract or view terms and conditions before embarking on the dates? What is the responsibility of Lucy Date? Who is Lucy Date? Is it a man or a woman? Is your information being sold to a third party? Is this clarified? How will they use this information? Are all your photos, and all the places you have visited protected?
Is any of the above information discussed?
The People Who Sign Up Are Too Busy
"Maddy works prolonged hours in a city and hasn’t had time to demeanour for love"
If these people are too busy, why will they then even bother making time to make any future dates a priority going forward? This article sums it up nicely "I'm too busy" replace it with: "It’s not a priority right now". This implies this method is just for a hookup or a good time.
Facebook Isn't The Real Self
“You can tell a lot by someone’s Facebook page, their timeline portrays a best chronicle of themselves and it’s identical to how they’ll execute themselves on a initial date.”
We disagree as per these studies / links
"As research suggests, your “real self” is what you are - your attributes, your characteristics, and your personality. Your “ideal self” is what you feel you should be; much of it due to societal and environmental influences. From a societal standpoint, many of us are driven by competition, achievement, and status; hence, the creation and portrayal of our ideal selves."
Please also read
- Most Of Your Facebook Friends Are Not Your Real Friends, Says Study
- The Social Media Effect: Are You Really Who You Portray Online?
- This Is Why You Shouldn't Take People's Facebook Lives Seriously
- Overblown Facebook personas can leave friends deflated
After the date and if the date doesn't go well, you could potentially be stalked and depending on your privacy settings, the stalker could pry on your location. This is check ins, stalk your 3rd party applications, obtain your address, go to the same events and confront you. It could get really weird.
Duty Of Care
Because its only a $30 buy in, you get what you pay for, there isn't a great deal of work that Lucy Date will do for you. The assumption is that Lucy Date would spend around an hour of research and communication and then an additional thirty minutes of work booking the restaurant. So its approximately one and half hrs work and receives $60.00. Again there is no labour fee for being on site at the blind date, no face to face meetings, no post event matching (like traditional speed dating events) no feedback etc etc, it's a great business model. This could be completely incorrect however but that's a good profit margin, high risk for the consumer, low risk for the creator.
Good For People Who Are Time Poor
This service sets it all up, all you have to do is arrive to the venue.
Compared to other legitimate dating options this is cheapest by far at $30.00
Look we're not here to poo poo every other dating idea and be like a worrying parent. 99% of the time it may be ok, but 1% of the time it could be deadly. Also if they're successful good on them, its scratching an itch or filling a niche.
Compared to other dating options I would surmise that this process would make women and men to a lesser extent feel really unsafe. It makes Tinder feel like a safer option, which is one of the least safest options out there. Atleast with Tinder you have a little more control of who you want to date, and you can suss out if this person (albiet via chat) is good for you.
Be carefull out there, asses all the risks before entrusting yourself to an unknown entity.