Are you worried and anxious like shit coz you gotta date coming up AND you have no idea how to present your self or what to do on a date? Well chill! Here's 10 tips you can use to calm the fuck down and potentially get a second date (if you play your cards right...)
1. Guys: Get Your Self Ready Before The Date Starts
2. Pay Attention and Listen
Being listened to is one of the nicest feelings and a guaranteed way to make people feel special with relatively little effort. So listen to what they're saying and take the time to respond appropriately with nods of the head and by repeating parts of what they’ve said back to them (this is called active listening). Don't be that that jerk and talk over the top of them either, people will remember you not by your words, but how you made them feel.
3. Mirror Them
Mirroring body language is a non-verbal way to say ‘I am like you, I feel the same’. The synchronicity of the crowd at the rock concerts and parades gives a secure feeling of belonging to each and every participant. The research shows that people who experience the same emotions are likely to experience mutual trust, connection and understanding
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4. Forget About Your Fucking Phone
Seriously put that fucking thing away! It's extremely rude if you're snap chatting, instagramming or face booking right in front of your date. It shows a lack of respect AND most of all that they're not the focus. Basically you will give them the impression that you're more interested in your phone rather then them. Come on, put it on flight mode and be present!
5. Have Some Conversation Topics Ready
If you're not the kind of person that's can really crap on about any subject, well how about getting some post it notes and get some conversation topics ready? Get 5 down then post them on your fridge. This way you may save yourself from incredibly awkward silences.
These can be for example,
- What is your signature dish?
- Do you like dogs or cats?
- Favourite type of music?
- Celebrity Crush
- Best coffee in Perth?
6. Guys: Make Her Laugh
“If you can make a woman laugh, you can make her do anything”.
Try to make her chuckle as often as possible as it will make more romantically interested. So joke about yourself without being too self deprecating and avoid slapstick. Let's leave that with old mate Charlie Chaplin yeh?
7. Girls: Be Mysterious
This person knows very little about you so take advantage of the mystery and let him play the guessing game for a while. It makes you more appealing. A little bit of mystery makes him want to know more, so save a few more juicy info nuggets for the second date.
8. Don't Get Wasted
When you're drunk, you're also negatively impacting your attention span, vision, and memory all of which can make it highly difficult for you to focus on your date, your conversation, and even your surroundings in general. Plus you will look like a booze hound, which is a massive turn off.